When Nstrech and rely on God, the answer will come in time, but did not come then it is important
Often try to waste our prayer times in attempts to tell God what we want, while God knows what we need. We need to spend more time to know God's will for our lives and put this into force of will.
Step Eleven says of steps Alcoholics anonymous: "We pray only for knowledge of His will for us and get the power needed to implement them." When God gives us knowledge of His will and the power to implement them, we should proceed to implementation.
This force will not work magically, but we have to do the work of the program every day, to become a force to reality
And real change to our lives
Wilson wrote in the Big Book some suggestions
If the conditions were met, we ask our wives or our friends to join us in our reflections daily
If we belong to any religious denomination require the presence of time worship AM, we also attend
Sometimes Mankhtar and preserve some of the prayers that emphasize the principles that we talked about before
There is a lot of prayer books and reflections that we can use
Spirituality has a special interest in the recovery of homosexuality, it is through the relationship to God (loving Agency) says twelve traditions, can be derived a sense of acceptance of homosexual God, which provides it with hope in change
The great acceptance of the important elements in the recovery of homosexuality, that sense of acceptance of a parent or "great." This large could be God Almighty (through worship and spirituality) and can also be ranked second, Valmaalj or leader of the group, which relies upon heavily in promoting and satisfy that hunger trove of fatherhood can take first place, and this dependence is decreasing gradually whenever decreasing Needing to him by Mutafi
It is also possible that the group (as a therapeutic community) is the entity that accepts large and contains homosexual Mutafi
1) the family system in which the child is born
We mean the system of domestic system of human values and patterns of relationships and human interaction in the family. Possible that the family system has the following
The concept of family for men and women (masculinity and femininity) and the relationship between them
Power structure in this family. Family system may be inherited from generation to generation where women are a leadership role and the role of the male in which marginal or negative
The concept of the family about sex and the sexual relationship between the parents. Perhaps the sexual relationship is weak or non-existent
Desire mother / father in the child's sex (mother that they wish a girl and a father who was hoping for a boy)
How this family deals with emotions, you allow the expression it or Tkptha? Repress emotions helps to convert the energy of emotions nationality.
The nature of relationships. Is there a real differentiation between the characters and the limits of respectable personalities? Am I the child / adolescent does not find himself a single respectable figure in this house.
How to communicate. Is vague and ambiguous, which increases the tension? Is one side in the form of orders and prohibitions? The continuing of the parties, all are allowed to express themselves?
How to deal with reality. Are family face reality, even if the illness or loss of, or tend to deny and family myths?
Way of thinking you tend to fear or doubt or self-blame, depression, or objective way of thinking that will help human to be realistic and relaxed?
German psychologist says Bert Hellinger specialist in the field of family systems Family Systems we inherit accumulated feelings of the family members, who know them or of previous generations that we do not know. For example there could be severe in the family refused. Father may have been rejected by his parents, for example. Feelings of rejection in the family make the child more willing than others to receive the rejection of his parents. This rejection, as we shall see later, a very pivotal role in the growth of homosexuality
2) personal
Child exhibition features for the growth of homosexual highly sensitive, also features a strong obedience and the inability to rebellion, or even to express their rights and confirmed. This of course does not mean that all children who are sensitive will grow they have homosexual tendencies, but this factor interacts with another factor which the family system and abuses that may be present in it as we will explain. If the family is delicate child abuse will be the first to be affected. Delicate child needs to be further contact, love and reassurance and protection, if he does not pay this requirement as it should, it will consist a negative self-image of the child and this encourages more and more separated from himself and others.
3) wound from the parent of the same sex
Wound primary parent of the same sex is wound of rejection and lack of communication, which thus prevents a child / her autism him / her. And therefore can not be development of male sexual identity of the boy and feminine girl. This happens in a very early age, one of the year and a half to three years (it is important here also noted that 90% of the brain consists end the third year of a lifetime!) Father who help create personal male's child is the father's strong personal and compassionate at the same time . So if this boy distant or weak hand, or cruel and offensive on the other hand, this wound occurs. To this wound occurs from the parent of the same sex, there are two key factors
- The fact the position of the parent of the same sex (which may be busy working and convinced that the responsibility of children is the responsibility of the mother only. Might also be dismissive of the Born a slave, or perhaps he also was thin (at least internally) and led his paper this to torment as a child and decided to completely rejects tenderness, this may makes him despise tenderness and sensitivity in his son.
- Sensitive personal for the child lead to a meeting of the wound more than others.
This wound or frustration in autism parent of the same sex at this age leads to defend myself not conscious doing child and has decided (not conscious) that separated himself psychologically for this father to protect himself from the rejection or expect compassion and non-existence. This separation is early and psychological change has started personal homeopathy. This so-called child secession Aldvaaaoa be separated himself from his father and decides not it wants to protect himself from the wound and frustration
After that, we find that the weak male sexual identity formation of Born weaken generally relates to males in the House
And school. In this case the child feels the separation of males. This separation prevents their united and considered himself one of them, and the same in the case of girls who separated from girls also because of a problem with the mother. So as not boy sexually attracted to children must feel that he is one with them. Non-autistic boys for Born opens the door for sexual attraction
Them, as well as for the girls who do not Atouhdn girls
4) wound from one of the opposite sex
Parent of the opposite sex also play an important role in the formation of a child's sexual identity / child. For boys play several roles of mother can lead to a problem in the formation of male sexual identity with the boy.
First: Mother strong dominant personality, especially when the father is spineless, account to the child and make him unite.
Second: smothering mother love and that she fears for her son too much, preventing the father to take him away from her and afraid of playing male. The mother of one of the teenagers who had been suffering from homosexual tendencies very afraid and disturbed when that happens heavy banter between her children and intervene quickly to stop it and protect child Alodgv insomnia (which is printed which became suffers from homosexual tendencies later).
Third: the mother who hates the father and disparaged him in front of her son and make him hated and rejected and therefore rejects him male identity inadvertently.
Fourth: the mother who in constant disagreement with the father and replaced by his son and make him a "doll."
5) wound of brothers
A child who appears Smata female, in his character or in the small body size or physical disability, may have been subjected to psychological abuse (humiliation or ridicule) or physical (beating) or nationality (sexual assault), of his brothers by more than others.
6) peer wounds
When the child is not united with his father and his brothers, but on the contrary, united with his mother and sisters girls, the character will be prone to allergic and non-violence are not inclined to play physical violent as the rest of the boys. This makes it isolated them and perhaps oppressed them, playing Fastsel and girls with autism. This "separation" from the boys devote separation from masculinity and ذكورته is personally. And remains separate from male and he can not consider himself one of them. This is the stage for the sexual attraction to them later. So as not boy sexually attracted to children must feel that he is one with them. Non-autistic boys for Born opens the door to sexual attraction to them, as well as for the girls who do not Atouhdn girls.
7) Special wound in the flesh
A very important relationship to the father in the composition of individual personal "self-management", where the mother often want "اشعوريا" restore the child or the child to her womb again, or at least treated as still part of it. Father has an essential role in the formation of individuality for each of the boys and girls alike. And Dad help the relationship that the child feels secession of his body from his mother and feels his body Bagtinah and life in this body stable and acceptable. When there is a problem in the relationship with the father, this affects not be a child or adolescent has a good relationship with his own body, and helps it to be his body something special Kalnhafah or obesity or extreme length or minors. This helps to configure the "wound" in relationship to the body and self-image for the body, especially that of school-age children tend to comment on each other's bodies and deal together on the basis of body size or mathematical skills in football, for example, or other. Many homosexuals have severe wounds from peers in this area. Physical abuse severely beat and psychological related to the body, such as humiliating talk about the body, or sexual abuse, all abuses lead to a bad image for the body. Perhaps marches dignity which homosexuals walking naked, is a kind of "pride" is natural and exaggerated as a kind of "backlash" for a sense of ownership of this body.
8) sexual assault
Male child is considered weak, who has a hunger for love male easy prey to fall into the hands of usurpers and violators of children. Proportion of subjected to sexual abuse who have homosexual tendencies up to 80% or 90% in some research. Sexual assault linking sex and satisfy the hunger for love, especially if you do not assault or violent compelling. The sexual pleasure creates accustomed and addicted to sex image that has practice, this sexual addiction devote strengthens homosexuality.
9) social wounds
Social wounds are wounds that deprive us of our need to accept and natural love of the community in which we live and the middle. Social wounds occur in the form of names, labels, and sarcasm, jokes and other. Most of have a tendency sexual felt pain because of the words that were directed to them personally or hear directed to those who exercise practices which they practice. Most of have a tendency homosexual, felt at one time not to social affiliation because they are different and therefore rejected. This rejection leads either to a sense of inferiority or a reaction to a feeling of inferiority through transcendence exaggerated and severe allergies.
10) cultural wounds
Social wounds are what we receive from the people and the communities in which they lived, and the cultural Wound intended. They negative messages that reach the person who has homosexual tendencies of the surrounding culture, the media and the press and the Internet, among others. And through stigmatization and shaming and ostracism and isolation. Or through ideas such as that he was born so and there is no way to change. In addition to these cultural wounds, also wounds "religious" that link to like me through
Clergy or religious institutions which are also characterized by stigma wounds and shaming and notice of guilt.
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